the best thing that you've ever had

This is for my Mr. J...

drama

I love how dramatic she is in this video.....the only thing I don't like is the white room with the waves in it....looks like a cheap porno set. But, I like this song alot, the way she belts out makes you really feel the pain she's singing about.

me

This is my personal monthly horoscope..

September
You don't have to play manipulation games anymore. The truth of the matter is that things are falling into place for you this month, and you don't have to work so hard to have everything you want in the love department. Dreams are coming true naturally. On September 7, take a step back and look at the big picture. It is a much better scenario than you realize. Stop focusing on the bad and start appreciating the good. Whether a relationship is ending or just taking off, trust that you are on the right path, because you are. Wonderful new beginnings are in store for you this September.

time

Trust


So, we know these basics:
When there is trust...
...you know he or she will be there for you no matter what happens.
...if you start to fall, they will catch you.
...if you are cold, they will warm you.
...if you need a hug, their arms will enfold you.
...if you need a soft word, theirs is the one you will hear.
...if you need a laugh, they have a joke.
...no matter what you need, you know they will be there, and they know the same about you.

But when the trust is gone...
....they may not be there to break your fall.
...they may be warming someone else when you need it most.
...their arms may already be wrapped around another lover.
...their words may be spoken softly to "him" or "her."
...they may be laughing together... perhaps at you.
...and no matter how much you need them, you'll never know if they'll be there for you... or if they'll ever be there again.
...there is no way to plan for the future.

Without trust, there is no successful relationship.

Take care of yourself.

But what if you want to be with that person stil adn rebuild trust?
One of the keys to rebuilding trust has more to do with what happens after one or both of you apologizes and says "I'm sorry" than the apology itself. We've all heard the saying, "Actions speak louder than words" and this is especially true when it comes to rebuilding trust. When there has been an acknowledgment of wrong-doing or if one person has hurt another in some way, there are some things that both people can do to rebuild trust.
Here's what is suggested for the person who feels they have been hurt:

1. After the apology, be clear about what actions you would like the other person to take to make amends.

2. If the other person is willing, make an agreement about these actions and how this situation will be handled in the future.

3. Be open to the possibility that no matter how this person's conduct may have been in the past, this person may change their behavior. Be willing to give up the "victim" position and the desire for making them pay for what they've done.

4. Watch for positive actions by this person in the future and let them know how much you appreciate it when they've "done it right." In other words, give some positive reinforcement.

Here's what they suggest for the person who is apologizing:
1. Understand that a sincere apology is only the first step toward rebuilding trust and your connection with that other person.

2. Ask how you can make amends for what you have done and listen to what the other person is telling you.

3. Be open to the possibility that you can change and get some help if you need to.

4. If you are sincerely willing to change your behavior in the way that the other person suggests, make an agreement to make those changes.

5. Be consistent in your follow through. People have found that rebuilding trust can take many years or it can happen in an instant. The amount of time that it takes to rebuild trust often depends on how long the people involved are determined to protect and defend their hearts so that they won't be hurt again.

We know that there are many instances where either a person wants to change and just can't or they have no desire to make the changes that will rebuild trust. They just go through the motions and the excuses and apologies are repeated over and over with no positive actions. If this is what you are experiencing, you have choices to make whether this behavior is important enough for you to take a stand against or not. Remember, that no matter what has happened up until now it's always important to give love a chance. It's also important to set healthy boundaries.

Um, no.....no you're not.

Last time I checked you were Froto.

crickey

In Memory of Steve Irwin...you crazy ass.